On first impression, you may be surprised that I seem to be recommending for you to "be a hypocrite."
Let me put that into some context, that's not quite what I mean.
(this topic applies to your personal life, not your professional/business life)
As I state in the video below-
"If you are/appear to be [a hypocrite], in the the eyes of others...
Who fucking cares?"
The goal of "not being a hypocrite" or "not being seen as a hypocrite" really shouldn't factor into your decision making process, actions or goals for your personal life. If, for some reason (such as you have a certain image/agenda to uphold because you are in a leadership position), it has to- I still encourage you to minimize its significance.
Avoiding "hypocrisy" is usually a 'nice guy' thing where people care what others think.
You can probably see where I'm going with this.
Table of Contents on Youtube Video
Table of Contents
0:00 Velvet Revolver- Falls to Pieces
0:10 When I say "Be a Hypocrite..." I mean...
0:40 Do What You Want. Always.
1:00 I'm not saying "Lecture People" (become an annoying moral authority), I'm saying Do What You Want regardless if boring judgmental people call you a "hypocrite".
2:00 Example of an issue (abortion) that no one is changing their mind on.
3:20 No one likes to be lectured on topics they don't even care about/cant change.
4:00 Definition of Hypocrite, (Mer.Webster)
5:50 DO WHAT YOU WANT ALWAYS, YOU WON'T HAVE REGRET
6:00 Example 1: Chris went to 6 different Undergrad schools
7:20 Example 2: Chris used steroids and hurt his knee/hair line... Doesn't regret it.
8:30 Example 3: Girl at Grocery Store (Hypothetical)
10:30 Christian Cross Example
11:45 Random Story of Super Hot Church/Party Girl Peeing on the ground (everything thinks she's a hypocrite, but she could care less)
15:05 Douchebag or Pussy? Both or Neither.
17:25 Health Freak or Drug Addict? Both or Neither.
19:15 It doesn't matter if you don't "fit in" so some average boring stereotypes.
21:15 More hypocritical/double identities that I've had (Tough Guy or Pussy) (East Coast vs. West Coast)
23:55 This one kid who wanted to pick up girls thought his Christian background was to blame for his lack of success- So he became a Devil worshipper for 2+ years but still didn't get laid. (HONEST TO GOD, TRUE STORY)
27:30 Remember I'm talking about your personal life. You should be consistent if you are returning a business or something like that.
28:20 Conflicting advice that I give, it may or may not apply to your situation.
30:10 My advice to myself today is different than my advice a few years ago
33:10 Be ALL OVER THE PLACE... DO WHAT YOU WANT.
33:40 Boring non-competeting Bodybuilders
34:10 People live by a set of rules that they've been handed and never questions
36:00 If your goal is to fit in, then ignore all of my advice, it won't help you.
36:20 Your funeral will be boring if you lead a boring life
37:00 Defining Success
37:30 Bill Gates vs. 50 Cent
38:00 Successful people are hypocritical and it doesn't prevent them from doing anything
38:35 Popular politicians are the scum of earth and they are super successful
40:00 Conforming, Non-Conformist doesn't usually know what they want.
"A person who acts in contradiction against his stated beliefs."
One thing I do want to mention is- DON'T LECTURE PEOPLE.
(yeah, that's me lecturing you)
Nobody likes a fucking know-it-all.
Often Mr. Know-It-All-Tell-It-All has no actual experience, he's been too busy "knowing it all."
I always say-
Do what you want and you won't have regrets, even if the outcome isn't what you might have been shooting for.
It's the times when you don't you what you want, that you may regret.
Looking back at my own life, this has pretty much been true across the board, especially in the cases where I didn't necessarily get the short-term or long-term outcome I had hoped for.
In the video at (starting at 6:00) I talk about transferring colleges several times and using anabolic steroids
NOT DOING WHAT YOU WANT, ISN'T AN OPTION. (AND IT SHOULDN'T BE)
(AND IT SHOULDN'T BE)
It's like you saved $100 to go to this high-end steak restaurant, you get excited about it for weeks. Finally, when you go, it's not that great. It's okay, not bad, but- not great. Do you "regret" doing it? Probably not. You made up your mind several weeks prior that you were going to go and although the outcome wasn't as advertised, you probably don't "regret" it.
Not going WASN'T AN OPTION. So there's no reason to dwell on it. And You Wouldn't.
You saved your money and got all excited about it- you were going to go NO MATTER WHAT. It wasn't like, 15 minutes before you could have thought- "I should leave now, I might regret this... I gotta get out of here!" Not an opinion.
DO WHAT YOU WANT. IT WILL BE THE RIGHT DECISION, REGARDLESS OF THE OUTCOME.
IT WILL BE THE RIGHT DECISION, REGARDLESS OF THE OUTCOME.
If you DO WHAT YOU WANT, you don't even need to put a "positive spin" on stuff (... well now I know that steakhouse isn't so good!) to justify the outcome or the result. I'm the type of person where- when I make up my mind, THAT'S IT. There's no other options and it's full speed ahead. Sometimes it takes a little while to make up your mind. That's fine.
Sometimes DOING WHAT YOU WANT, might make you a "hypocrite," to other people. That's fine. Continue to live on your terms and let them sort out the paperwork.
Multiple people have advised me to stay away from this 'how-is-this-a-really-controversial?' topic.
But here we go-
If you might have noticed, I wear a cross around my neck. My mom gave it to me.
Every once in a while a committed Christian or devout Atheist will write in calling me a "hypocrite," obviously- for opposite reasons. The Christian doesn't think that God would approve of me talking about Getting Laid/telling guys how to meet women (or anything I talk about); likewise, the Atheist is upset because he thinks I'm on "his team" and tells me I "need to lose the cross."
I get what they are saying. A 2nd grader can understand it.
I don't really care.
(Nor do I lecture people on "How to be a Christian" or "How to be an Atheist.")
Things such as Christianity, Atheism or whatever- they are CONCEPTS made up by people in order to categorize people for convenience. Their meaning is subjective, and in my subjective opinion- it's doesn't really matter if you do or don't stay consistent with these concepts, unless you are TRYING TO fit a stereotype.
I'm neither trying to say/prove I'm a Christian or an Atheist, that's not exactly the focus GoodLookingLoser.com (most people notice this). It was a gift that my Mom gave me and I wear it because I want to, regardless if it doesn't make sense to Christians or Atheists who have a concept of what "one of us" should look, be and smell like.
Because I like to use extreme examples that I have come across- I used the Christian vs. Atheist example. But this applies across the board on so many concepts that are seemingly at odds.
Here's a bunch more "hypocritical" behaviors that people point out-
I say I have a lot of respect for women, but I don't really have a problem texting them 'hey u sexy little bitch'.
I consider myself a health freak, even though I use drugs.
I hate pop music, but I like Lady Gaga.
I like to date healthy girls, but at least 50% of the girls I date are smokers.
I think people that dress up to be seen in LA are full of shit, but I do the same exact thing.
I dislike the notion of Americans "living off welfare" but I've never had a real job.
(there's probably 500+ more...)
One thing that has stayed consistent is- the Net Effect of being (seen as) a hypocrite in my personal life is usually 0. Arguably, it's had a positive effect- I do what I want. And I recommend the same to you.
People who have time to keep score of "how hypocritical" others are... usually don't have much of a life.