How to Make & Achieve Your Goals
(NOTHING IN MODERATION)
A lot of young guys will really benefit knowing how almost all successful people structure their goals.
We'll tell you how it's done.
If you've seen the rest of our success principles, you'll know that they all basically contradict normal "blue pill" underpaid 9-5, high-fructose corn syrup fed, mind-numbed, creativity-void, undersexed, out of shape average guy mentalities.
But many of them even directly contradict the accepted "foundations" of mainstream self-improvement, which is otherwise a significant upgrade to an "average guy" life.
This is one that does both-
NOTHING IN MODERATION.
Even on our forum, from time to time, has a lot of active and accomplished guys tell each other to do "everything in moderation".
I don't even think we realize what we are saying and it's just a universal statement that we all tend to accept and offer as advice without thinking about it.
Lets put an end to that.
Anything that was ever a #1 goal & #1 priority in my life- hockey, fitness, LSAT, meeting women, performance enhancing drugs, male enhancement, my personal training business (defunct), Good Looking Loser, etc. - I COMPLETELY OBSESS OVER.
Likewise, anything that I ever accomplished in my life is a product of obsession, not moderation.
- Thinking about my ONE GOAL when I wake up.
- Thinking about my ONE GOAL when I make my Kratom shake in the morning.
- Thinking about my ONE GOAL when I brush my teeth.
- Thinking about my ONE GOAL when eating breakfast.
- Thinking about my ONE GOAL when driving to the gym.
- Thinking about my ONE GOAL when someone is talking to me at the gym.
- Thinking about my ONE GOAL when I'm at the grocery store.
- Thinking about my ONE GOAL when I'm putting the food into the fridge.
- Thinking about my ONE GOAL when I'm drinking a protein shake.
You get the point.
I wouldn't be lying if I told you that I have dreams about what I'm working on.
Then I wake up and get pissed off that I was just dreaming and the work hasn't gotten done.
The only time I'm not thinking about this goal is when I'm working on it, which is usually 80% of my waking hours, which often extend to 20+ hours.
Yeah, there are off days when I'm not directly working on my goal.
But guess what I'm thinking about?
Sure, it's sometimes hard for me to "be present".
Maybe that's a knock on me, but I have no trouble volunteering that information.
At this period of my life I'd rather be successful than present.
That's not to say I'm "never present"; I can do it if I'm feeling good about what I've accomplished and certainly if I'm doing something I want to be doing.
If I thought (and experienced) that "being present" was a mandatory success principle, you'd see it here.
You probably won't.
It might be with the "happiness principles" one day- but I teach success (winning), not happiness.
The truth is, at least in my case, I don't get super stressed if I'm working on/obsessing over something I like.
The word "obsession" has a negative connotation and obviously it's not a good idea to obsess over something you don't like.
A lot of people somehow believe that investing nearly all your physical and psychological time and energy into ONE thing is a bad idea.
Guess why we have so many average people in the world?
That's one of the reasons.
Nobody I know that was ever truly successful at anything significant lived a life of moderation.
They might suggest doing "everything in moderation" to others or even believe they live some sort of balanced life, the truth is- they don't or they didn't when they were working on their goal.
My father worked 19.5 hour days, just about every day, for 31 years (including Saturdays). He retired a multimillionaire at age 50. I was born 3 months later.
My mother went to Law School full time at George Washington University while pregnant (with me) and later became one of the directors of the United States Marshal Service, a male-dominated field. When she retired, she had accumulated ~27,300 hours of overtime (working ~3.5 overtime hours a day for 30 years).
Scotty approached 70+ girls a day for a good 8 months until he fixed his sex life. Then he never stopped going out.
Mr. Tampa, a guy that I used to train with, gave MAXIMUM EFFORT every single day, every single set, every single rep. I'm a hard worker; back in 2003-2006 I could outlast 99% of people in the gym, while lifting heavier weights than them- but there was only a handful of sets in 2.5 years that I ever gave more effort or more intensity than he did. On every set- he would literally lift weights until both his mind and body completely failed him.
Mark, the ADMIN on the forum, was a walk-on at linebacker (and kicker) for Penn State Football, while maintaining a 4.1 weighted GPA and taking a full load of credits at the Smeal College of Business where he earned his MBA.
Clay, better known to you guys as 'Clay Mathews', came to the University of Southern California as a scrawny freshman (6-3 175lbs) that probably only made the #1 ranked Trojan Football team because his father Clay II and his uncle Bruce were former All-Americans at USC. According to other players at USC, Clay was the group pick-on his Freshman year. By Senior year, Clay was 245lbs and the best pass rusher in college football. He was the 1st-round pick of the Green Bay Packers and is now one of the best players in the NFL.
(I only vaguely know Clay, but his story came to mind)
Perhaps most impressively, PhilTheBeard, has gained over 2" on his dick, lost 100lbs, all while running a business, and managing a relationship with a cute girl in under a year.
Not a single person had a lifestyle of moderation.
If they tell you that you should- they don't mean it or they think you are soft.
- Imagine if Michael Jordan decided in high school or college that he "needed" to play baseball or take time off from basketball because he was playing "too much".
- Imagine if Bill Gates or Steve Jobs felt they were spending "too many" hours at the office and decided to use the money they first made for vacations rather than expanding their businesses.
- Imagine if George Bush/Barack Obama/Any Politician/Anyone Who Does Pop Music After 2006 didn't suck as many cocks as they possible could on their way to Captial Hill.
Would they not have been successful?
Maybe, maybe not.
I would guarantee they wouldn't have been as successful.
Plus- the entire mentality of "moderation" or "too much" is soft.
If they had that mentality they probably wouldn't even be on the map. But who knows.
The only decent argument against "Obsession" or "Nothing in Moderation" is the potential toll it can take on your health.
This is my response, based on my experience and observing those older and currently more successful than I-
- You do have to get some physical activity.
- You do need to eat healthfully- avoiding trans fat and sugar.
- You do need to at least like your goals.
- You should get 8 hours of sleep.
- You should only consume hardcore drugs and alcohol in moderation.
(and ONLY as a performance enhancer)
- You should go to the doctor for a physical once a year.
- You shouldn't smoke.
That alone will keep you healthier than the vast majority of the world, especially Americans.
Working on Good Looking Loser (and on other things I enjoy) for 18 hours a day (thanks Kratom), is 5000x easier than working a job that I hate from 9-5. It's also 1000x easier than working a job that I "can't complain" about from 9-5.
While I tend to push 16 hour work days, I always get at least 8 hours of sleep.
That's important. Most workaholics don't and that's a factor in their health decline.
I'll have to re-evaluate in a few years, but this recipe has been working for everything I've ever accomplished and my doctor and blood work suggests I'm in A+ health.
You aren't married, you don't have kids, you don't have real bills to pay.
You might think you have commitments and responsibilities (school, expenses) but you don't.
Get off our fucking blog and go make something happen.
(please come back later... thank you.)
WATCH THIS AND WATCH IT AGAIN
(THEN GET TO WORK)
Your recipe for success.
This summer, I found Victor’s blog “Bold and Determined;” it’s excellent and he has a identical mindset and similar article on the subject that I encourage you to check out. I think he does a better job of motivating guys than myself.
I’ll tackle the subject of “time management” in the future, something that I believe I score a “B+” on. Work ethic is more important than time management, especially in the initial stages in which we encourage you to“WORK HARDER, NOT SMARTER,” another of our principles that contradicts everything else.