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30 Things I Wish I Knew In My Early 20's (Part I)

Things I Wish I Knew In My Early 20's
(Part 1)

I've been fortunate to have my most exciting, independent and emotionally/sexually/financially rewarding years in my late 20s.

My earlier 20's, while hardly disappointing, were stereotypical for a decent looking kid that was obsessed with the gym and afraid to talk to hot girls.

Some fun, some good times, no specific regrets but overall- a lot of underachievement and missed opportunities by most of our standards.

And Always, a general confusion on where my life was going and how I'd get there if I even had a vision.

It was all okay though.

My early 20's were a learning experience and every success and temporary failure has gone into building who I am today and all that is Good Looking Loser.

All the right and wrong turns gave me direction.

All the anxious days when I didn't have a job and decided to do my best to live my life and do what I wanted - paid off.

I'm going to tell you about what I learned in my 20's - so you can hear it now and don't have discover or debate it with yourself later.

I can't expand on each of these as much as I'd like to but I'll point you in the right direction.

In no particular order...
Hollywood red carpet
1) Sexual Availability/Rejection
This is a term that I coined but had no real understanding of in my early 20's.

In short, sexually availably, so long as you look above-average, explains the vast majority of "rejection".

Unlike the PUA community thinks or the writers mainstream dating advice can even comprehend - not EVERY girl is available and even less are DTF at any given time.
(in fact- here are your unofficial odds)

"Screening" is my term to separate the available girls from the unavailable ones.

Fear of rejection was the primary reason that I was underachieving in my sex life.

Once I realized that I wasn't being rejected for a lack of sex appeal - an entirely new world opened up to me.

 
2) Looks Threshold

To some degree, every girl (and guy) has a "looks threshold".

They will not, under nearly any circumstances*, sleep with a member of the opposite sex that falls below that threshold. Especially if there are social consequences from judgmental friends.

*alcohol, for example, can change this threshold

At the same time, when sexually available, they are willing to consider/excited to meet someone who passes that threshold.

For the vast majority of girls, including the very hottest ones, the threshold is subconsciously set at 'above-average' and other factors such as Swag Factor (coolness) can easily put you over the top.

In fact, 'coolness' (girls call it "personality") generally matters more to the hottest girls (so long as the looks threshold is met).

Looks actually matter MORE to women than to men.

But the good news is that - nearly ANY guy can become above-average, even if genetically, he weren't dealt automatic entry to the "above-average crowd".

office working going crazy

3) You Will Never Get Rich From Working A Traditional Job
(with very few exceptions)

Wow, I have a lot to say about it.

This will be part of the 'Get Rich' (Get Paid) section of the New GLL.

My definition of "rich" is making over $250,000 PROFIT, after-taxes.

Basically none of the very best professional jobs, outside of a veteran professional athlete or rockstar that gets radio play, come anywhere close to this for guys in their 20's and 30's.

Keep this in mind and repeat it to yourself on a daily basis-
"OWNERSHIP IS THE ONLY THING THAT MATTERS"

"OWNERSHIP IS THE ONLY THING THAT MATTERS"

"OWNERSHIP IS THE ONLY THING THAT MATTERS"

"OWNERSHIP IS THE ONLY THING THAT MATTERS"

"OWNERSHIP IS THE ONLY THING THAT MATTERS"

Either you work to make yourself wealthy or you work to make someone else wealthy.

There are two types of people-

  1. Owners
  2. Workers

Workers at "jobs" often work harder, longer hours and are more [book] smart than the people they work for.

But they'll never see a significant amount of money simply because they don't own anything.

With all that said - if you are still in your 20's - DO NOT be too prideful to take a job in a field or from someone that you can learn the industry from. Spending 2 or 3 years with a successful guy (or girl) that you can learn from is arguably more valuable than spending 10 years of just "working" without a mentor or direction.

Your 20's is all about working for experience, learning skills and the business/operating systems of your industry.

You are better off taking a lower paying job that helps you learn how to be an businessman (owner) where you can see the day-to-day operations of the company than to take a slightly higher paying mindless job where you don't have access to any perspective or anyone that isn't a worker.

Boy Toy suggests- getting a sales job is a good start.

4) The Ideal Body is Lean - Not Huge

Although I played sports in my 20's (hockey) and tried to play some sports in my 20's (football) - my gym pursuits were mainly to get respect from guys and love from girls.

You know, gimme a break- just like any average insecure kid in his 20s.

I'm 6-2.

I could have stopped after I was 190lbs at 6-8% body fat.

More girls noticed me (and wanted to take pictures with me) when I was 180lbs than at 220lbs.

Girls will introduce me to their friends when I'm 200lbs but are hardly interested when I'm 240lbs. It doesn't matter how lean I am at 240lbs.

Unless you are 6 foot 6, you are likely creating an uphill battle for yourself once you pass 210lbs.

No, you shouldn't do everything "for girls". But if you want to know what their notion of the ideal body is - I gave it to you.

Teacher teaching college student

5) What You Learn Are Taught in College Does Virtually Nothing For You
With the exception of some pre-professional curriculum, the material you are taught in college (and high school, for that matter) is just about worthless.

Remember - teachers and professors generally have NO REAL EXPERIENCE with what they are teaching. They are educated theorists, like a dating coach/pick up artist - only they teach way more boring stuff that has been allowed state approval.

Secondary education and college is simply a breeding ground to produce an expendable, disciplined, debt-laden labor force for the state or corporations.

If everyone wanted to be an owner, the economy would collapse.

Capitalism (and a workforce willing to be underpaid) can only exist if people NEED to work.

If you begin your 20's - $100,000 in debt, you will have to work or you will starve.

Corporations know that you didn't learn anything relevant in college and that your professor just writes textbooks and has never actually run a business.

Don't worry - they'll catch you up to speed. Whatever skills you actually need to do a job will be outlined in the new employee guidebook and will be taught to you by another worker. 

It doesn't matter if you don't remember what an obtuse triangle is or what the state capital of Vermont is. (Montpelier)

I can officially say that 99.9% of the stuff I was taught in college proved to be worthless.

With that said- I am not totally against people going to college.

What you learn (not what you are taught) can be valuable.

It all depends on your [family's] finances and your alternatives.

I'm somewhat mentoring this kid who just turned 18.

His alternatives are going into the army or working a mindless minimum wage job and living at home - I suggest he inflates his GPA, test scores and claims minority status to get a scholarship. College, in most cases, is a better option than those alternatives.

6) The Key to Success is Taking Action - Not Reading About It
I used to read a lot of personal improvement stuff and maybe you are doing the same right now.

The legitimate stuff will tell you - TAKE ACTION.

Some people feel that "reading" is taking action and learning.

It's not.

It's a safe way to procrastinate and daydream.

This is the Secret to the Universe and it's repeated time and time again - many of us know it but don't yet believe it.

Young people having a Christmas party
7) If You Don't At Least Somewhat Prioritize Your Social Life, You WILL Be Left Behind

When I was in college the idea of a "social life" seemed superficial and way less important than my academics and gym time.

I'd avoid going to parties to make sure I ate my 6th meal of 575 calories and 48.5 grams of protein.

Some of the years it was the right decision, but later in my college career it probably wasn't.

At times-

I was depressed and didn't want a social life.

But I was probably depressed because I didn't have one.

With only the exception of a handful of people I know - those who didn't make their social life at least their #2 priority in their early 20's suffered greatly in their later 20's.

When most people are removed from the college environment, unless they are really good looking, they will struggle to make friends and meet women.

All the hours of being a loner and surfing the Internet add up.

Social inexperience is very real and can negatively affect so many areas of your life.

You won't see the effect until you are in your later 20's and more lonely than ever.

It will be an uphill battle to have meaningful relationships for the rest of your life if you significantly neglect your social life in your early 20's.

8) How to "Mingle"
(make small talk with girls I didn't know)
Though I recommend aggressive ways to pickup girls or at least "Basic Guy Game", I would have settled for just being comfortable and able to make small talk with girls I didn't know.

I wasn't bad at it.

But I wasn't particularly good.

If you are at a party with your friends, be the one to walk up to girls and say-

"Hey, how are you guys doing? We don't know you yet and thought we'd come say hi."

(introduce yourself)

Proceed to make normal small talk -

  • Where are you from?
  • How do you know [name of host]?
  • etc.

That's right. Barge right in. Repeat it until you are vibing with some girls and then go take them to the drinks.

Tell the one you are interested in to "get some air" or "take a walk" with you and take her to a private area.

Graveyard with ghosts
9) You Think You Have Time But You Don't
I'm lucky.

My late 20's and early 30's are my Golden Years.

I've lived my 20's in reverse.

But only somewhat by choice.

Regardless, I will tell you- it felt like yesterday when I turned 21. I still feel like that kid (can't you tell?).

Your 20's will come and go faster than any decade in your life.

Have fun, decide what you want to do with your life and get some experience in that area with the plan of being an OWNER and controlling the means of production.

Your 20's is all about trial and error with some direction and having fun.

Don't let some guy in a cubicle tell you differently, if you actually get good at something significant (and can teach others how to do it), you'll be making more money than he does in 5 months.

A lot of kids have the motto-

"Work Hard. Play Hard."

It's not a bad one, it takes a lot of effort to do well in school, stay in shape and have a great social life.

In fact, I only could manage the first 2.

The problem is that way too many of these "Work Hard. Play Hard." types are counting on their college degree and GPA to actually translate to money - they are still headed for an entry-level salary and more debt.

Instead of simply studying to one day be a part in a system, they would be better off studying and understanding how the whole system functions.

10) Having "Edge" is Sexy

Thankfully, I've always looked masculine and had some natural edge and masculinity.

Only when I moved to LA, however, did I add some 'edge' to my look.

After I got used to my new look, girls stopped looking at me as strickly boyfriend material and more like a guy they wanted to sleep with.

Even if you are good looking, I still suggest building some edge into your look.

Good looking guys with edge are rare and usually the ultimate players.

Like we say, "Dress Like You Are a Somebody, Not a Nobody."

Continued in -

Do me a favor, tell me what you think of this piece or add your question/comment.

30 Things I Wish I Knew In My Early 20's (Part II)
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Comments (43)

  1. Diomedes300

Awesome article, excellent. I agree with 3 and 4, i'm beginning to trade stocks and makin a lot of $$$$

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  1. Good Looking Loser    Diomedes300

THank you. Yeah "Wall Street" and trading is a 'wild card' job. I actually put it closer to 'professional poker player' (I actually know 3... Random) than the traditional workforce.

The potential in that is certainly unlimited. I'm going to...

THank you. Yeah "Wall Street" and trading is a 'wild card' job. I actually put it closer to 'professional poker player' (I actually know 3... Random) than the traditional workforce.

The potential in that is certainly unlimited. I'm going to steer clear of talking about Wall St. for now, I don't know much about it.

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  1. Number One Stag

I love this post. This is exactly what I need right now.

Prioritizing social life is especially true. Leaving college and coming back made me quite behind the game, and made making friends much more difficult. Wish I had just taken a gap year...

I love this post. This is exactly what I need right now.

Prioritizing social life is especially true. Leaving college and coming back made me quite behind the game, and made making friends much more difficult. Wish I had just taken a gap year from college from year one and gone in the second year, instead of finishing the last 3 years in my mid twenties.

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  1. Good Looking Loser    Number One Stag

yeah give yourself permission to do so- I only did halfway until I was about 27-28ish

Merry Christmas kidd

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  1. Spyda

Like the "The Key To Success Is To Take Action" bit.

Like ~1.5 hrs ago I was reading some training material on GLL forums. I then said FUCK IT, and went to the gym instead (at 2AM in the morning.) Better use of my time lol.

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  1. littlehero91

Well, point 7 struck with me. I'm in my early 20s and despite the gym people I have zero friends. I can make new acquaintances fairly easy, but no solid friends with whom I can go party with. I never had a girlfriend and zero female friends. When...

Well, point 7 struck with me. I'm in my early 20s and despite the gym people I have zero friends. I can make new acquaintances fairly easy, but no solid friends with whom I can go party with. I never had a girlfriend and zero female friends. When I approach, all opportunities I had I fucked up because I had terrible social skills.
Now, I haven't been treated very well in my teens by my parents and now I have this feeling that everyone hates me. I also have problems recognizing people due to my terrible vision. Well, I can certainly attest that "all those lonely hours" will add up. They did and I'm constantly miserable when I see happy people.

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  1. Omar Little

This is great, look forward to the next part

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  1. MD

Excellent article. I'm looking forward to parts II and III.

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  1. sebastian

Take action is a big one...

You want a better social life? Take action!
You want to become jacked? Take action!
You want to own your own business? Take action!

At the end of the day it always comes down to taking action. Analyze what is...

Take action is a big one...

You want a better social life? Take action!
You want to become jacked? Take action!
You want to own your own business? Take action!

At the end of the day it always comes down to taking action. Analyze what is necessary to achieve your goal, and than do whatever is necessary as long as necessary.

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  1. Q

When are you coming out with the second part on game for black guys?

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  1. Joel

Just a general question. Would an 18 year old, very good looking (I don't mean to brag, but I generally see myself as better looking than 99% of guys I see), have a good body, and good social skills be able to pull girls in the 20 - 26 age range?...

Just a general question. Would an 18 year old, very good looking (I don't mean to brag, but I generally see myself as better looking than 99% of guys I see), have a good body, and good social skills be able to pull girls in the 20 - 26 age range? This is honestly the only thing I'm really somewhat insecure about. I don't consider myself "inexperienced", but I sometimes subconsciously feel like I might get shut down because I'm younger. Can you shed any light on this?

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  1. Good Looking Loser    Joel

Yeah you can get older girls in your teens. One of the first girls I ever hooked up with was 22, when I was 16.5.

The main thing is developing KILLER INSINCT so you aren't relying on them to do everything

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  1. Branden

Looking foreward to reading the rest Chris! I turned 21 a few months ago, and feel somewhat like the description of your younger self lol, i know its deffintly time for change in my life. About a half a year ago, i found your hairloss videos on...

Looking foreward to reading the rest Chris! I turned 21 a few months ago, and feel somewhat like the description of your younger self lol, i know its deffintly time for change in my life. About a half a year ago, i found your hairloss videos on yt, and i just have to say, you have been a big help in a lot of areas. I just recently started follwing your other site, and really digging the no bs info! Just wanted to say thanks bro, your one of the few internet guys that i actually trust for info, its good to know that their are still honest people on the net like yourself. I try and promote your site and yt page to friends and such whenever i can, least i can do for all the great content you provide, keep up the good work my friend!

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